The art of the possible…

 …lies in youthful minds.

A week ago my wife and I took an extended weekend to go camping with her sister and her husband.  They had their 4 year old granddaughter with them.  Our campsite was replete with hickory nuts.  We weren’t sure whether or not our grandniece had ever seen a hickory nut so we brought her over to our site to show them to her.

 It was fun to watch the excitement on her face as she discovered nut after nut, all the while inquiring why we had so many and they didn’t have any at their campsite. 

After the newness of this discovery wore off, she said “Would you like to buy a hickory nut for a $1?”  My wife and I began negotiating with her.  With a sigh of exasperation she said “Just pretend.”

As adults we’d taken her request literally, when she was pretending.  How often do we close our mind to possibilities because we’re too literal?  What do we forego because we no longer “pretend.”  A great deal, I’m afraid.

If we think about concepts like the law of attraction, goal setting and achievement or success in any form, what do we need to do first?  The most successful among us tell us that they visualize the result.  They see the result in their minds before they embark on the path of making it a reality.  In essence, they’re pretending that is already exists.

It’s counter-intuitive, but leaving behind the “childish” world of make believe prevents us from enjoying the things we truly desire.

If you have a favorite story from a child in your life, please send me an email at dale@furtwengler.com so that we can share it with The Invaluable Leader readers. 

Not if we continue to relinquish our rights.

We are inviting government control.

Last week an ABC World News Tonight report said that some independent pharmacists are refusing to sell contraceptive devices.  They also refuse to fill prescriptions for that purpose.  The Illinois legislature is considering legislation that would require pharmacists to sell these items. 

This is a battle over individual rights.  The question is “Whose rights should prevail?”  Or is it?  To me, it’s another example of our willingness to relinquish our right to make choices for ourselves.  A choice we could easily retain IF we learned to respect each other’s choices.

The third step, in the 7 Steps to Becoming INVALUABLE, is learning to suspend judgment.  We suspend judgment when we respect the rights of others to make their own decisions.  When we deprive others of that right, we risk forfeiting that right for ourselves.

Every time we turn over the decision-making process to legislators or the courts, we not only relinquish the right to choose for ourselves, we relinquish a future right - the right to change that decision.  Anyone who has ever tried to overturn prior legislation or set new court precedent knows exactly what I mean.  Conversely, if we craft solutions on our own, we reserve the right to craft new solutions as the situation changes. 

If pharmacists, when notifying their customers of their choice not to sell contraceptive devices and medications, would have provided alternative sources to their customers, they would have shown respect for the choices their customers make while honoring their own choices.

Similarly, if customers who choose contraception would respect the religious or moral beliefs of these pharmacists, they’d quickly realize that there are alternatives that fit their needs while respecting the choices of the pharmacist.  We live in a world of on-line pharmacies!  Orders are delivered right to our doors.  These “aggrieved” customers can’t even argue inconvenience.

It’s counter-intuitive, but when we initiate a battle over personal rights, we:

• Waste time fighting when we could be crafting solutions
• Give others the right to decide what’s right for us
• Forfeit our future rights to decide our fate

Is that what we want?  If not, let’s learn to respect each others choices and find ways to help each other find the solutions that are right for them while honoring our own choices. 

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