Monday, March 31, 2008
It doesn't have to be that way.
I had the good fortune to present my 7 Steps to Becoming INVALUABLE program to the Gateway Association of Payroll Professionals. They were one of the most delightful audiences I've ever experienced.
When I presented Step 4, Developing a Contrarian Mindset, a member of the audience said "I do play devil's advocated in our office and I do use the questioning technique you suggest, but it doesn't make me very popular."
I'm sure that most of us have experienced that reaction. To avoid being viewed as a naysayer, use this simple technique. Preface your question with the phrase "Help me understand..."
This simple phrase:
- creates a mindset of openness within you - openness to the possbility that you may have overlooked something
- changes the tone of the question by indicating exploration rather than challenge
- creates openness in others because you're not challenging their ideas
- affords others the opportunity to "enlighten" you
It's counter-intuitive, but the devil's advocate can be treasured. If you want to be treasured instead of trashed, say "Help me understand..."
Please let me know which topics you'd like me to address. Email me at
dale@furtwengler.com.





